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I made an offer on a house and it was accepted and now I guess I'm buying a house. AHHH. We did all of the inspections and found knob and tube wiring in the house. What is knob and tube wiring, you ask? The devil's wiring from a century ago. NBD. Except that a lot of insurance companies don't like covering the devil's wiring. On account of the minor fire hazard when it's in the open air and has random splices throughout the wiring. And it's not like that's all over the attic and basement. Oh, wait. It is.
So I asked for the $4500 quoted to remove the knob and tube wiring. The seller flat out refused. And proceeded to ignore the other couple of fixes we requested.
But I really want the house right? So I went back and asked only for the plumbing fix. And now this asshole want to give me a credit for fixing the pipes instead of getting a plumber out there to fix the damn thing himself.
Argh. I knew buying a house would be a long process, but this is a lot longer and more involved than I thought.
On a happier note, the house is adorable. It's a brick bungalow, 2 bedroom, 1 bath and has a 1 car detached garage. The floor is all hardwood, and the kitchen is updated with new stainless steel appliances. And it's got a nice big deck.
Y'all are welcome to come anytime after I close on Feb. 19!!
In other news, I met a guy from OkC that isn't a total psycho. We've gone on 3 dates now. (First, dinner and walking around the mall. Second, dinner and a movie. Third, he made lasagna at his place and we watched Minority Report and 2 episodes of Arrow.) And after the last one, I realized I don't really like him.
It's unfortunate. He's nice and opens doors for me and pays for dinner and stuff. But even on the first date, I didn't think he was all that attractive. But he's a little geeky and likes a lot of the same shows and I thought I'd give him a little time to grow on me. But he didn't.
Then he texted me about going out next Saturday for Valentine's Day…. I don't want to lead him on. I don't want to be a jackass. I've never had a date on Valentine's Day. But I'll admit I was tempted to tell him I would be out of town next week.
Any advice, lovelies?
Sounds like a fab house, good thing you know what you are getting yourself into and you live in a large enough city that you can probably find someone who isn't a jackass. Btdubs, adult sleepovers that involve private residencies and full time employment?
ReplyDeleteYou do you, honey. If you are not into him, give him a call and just say it is not working out, but he is a fab guy. On the other hand you can go on a date then take it from there. Either way you need to do what's best for you. Get 'em tiger!
I'm going to be at your place so goddamn fast once you close. Like unnaturally so. Like you'll take down the "sold" sign and bam! I'll be behind you.
ReplyDeleteSorry that it's not getting fixed in the manner you'd like. I hope that all gets sorted out in a relatively stress free manner. Holy shit, you're buying a house I can't believe it.
As for the guy, first I would like to admire Cylon's fabulous advice of "you do you" just for all things. My two cents is this, be honest. Getting dumped is going to suck no matter what, but people always appreciate when you're considerate and honest. It's too bad, sometimes you date nice people but there's just no spark. It's life it happens.
But if you really want to give him one more chance on V-Day, I see no harm in it. Why not! Life is romp of gaiety and laughter and joy needs to be maximized!
I'm sorry, I'm way tired. Hope things work out and love you lots. <3 <3
In regards to the house: it may be better that you hire someone to do all of that work for you instead of asking the seller to do it. The seller doesn't give a shit--they just want to keep as much of the money as possible, so they'd do a shoddy job. You're better off spending that extra bit of money investing in the well-being of your future home. It'll be worth it. It's all grown-up shenanigans. From what I understand of it, if you like it as much as you do, then don't worry too much about the extra money needed to fix it up. It'll be worth it, and it'll be yours.
ReplyDeleteIn regards to the guy, honesty is key. Kind, gentle honesty, anyway. Don't worry about being alone for Valentine's Day--for me, just that extra day could make him like you even more than he already does. (I would've preferred for my ex to break up with me before the holidays rather than dragging through the holidays so that neither of us would be sad and alone, but we'd all just end up miserable anyway.) Valentine's Day isn't a big deal anyway. You'll just save the first Valentine's Day for someone special, not just someone convenient. However, if you really would like to be with someone that day, perhaps make it clear to him that it's a friend thing, not a romantic thing. It's so easy for us to misinterpret when it comes to romantic holidays.
Good luck, dearest. I hope everything goes well with that house and that boy!
Update:
ReplyDeleteI texted him that we should just be friends and he seems to be taking it okay. He asked if he did anything to offend me and I assured him it was nothing like that. I agreed with Ada that seeing him on Valentines day would just have made it harder later.
Anyway, I have my final walk through for the house on Sunday!
As a woman, I've always been a bit hesitant about buying my own home. I worry that I won't be able to understand the issues that need to be fixed, but your post shows that it isn't too difficult. I think I'll start looking for a place, and I hope to find a home as cute as yours. As for your dating situation, good luck.
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